I think I can count on two hands the number of first dates I had before I turned 30. And the number of times I was asked out (errr, I should say the number of times I recognized I was being asked out) only increases that number by five. But when I look back on my life there were probably dozens of other men who could have asked me out but I unwittingly signaled to them that I wasn?t interested. This was because i spent too much time trying to figure out if they liked me, or were just being friendly.
When I started working with a male dating coach I shared with him my inability to get men to ask me on a date. What she shared with me altered how I interact with men and lead me to getting asked out on more dates.
That strategy is as follows:

Assume a guy is in to you until he tells you he isn?t

When you make this ?mindshift you will subconsciously send vibes to your suitors that you are open to getting to know them in a more intimate setting. And if he is truly not interested or otherwise unavailable he?ll let you know. If you take the approach that you are trying to prove the assumption that he is interested in you, kind of like your own social experiment, it may be easier for you to make the leap into this new way of thinking.

This advice isn?t just for women. Men who may feel like their approach to find love isn?t working can make this mindshift too.
Some of you reading this may have taken pause to my earlier comment of treating this approach as a social experiment. You may be thinking ?This is about love. Treating this as an experiment makes the process feel fabricated.?
I?ll ask you this: When all is said and done and you in a great long-term relationship does it matter how the first date materialized?

The cold, hard fact is that there has to be a first date before you can have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Why does it matter how that first date manifested?
Don?t let your over-analytical brain hold you back from getting first dates. Live in the moment as if every man you encounter wants to know more about you.
Leave your thoughts in the comments section about this new way of thinking.