As I was traversing through my journey of discovery and learning what I was doing right and what I was doing wrong in my quest to find love my friend Reggie shared a piece of advice that greatly changed how I approach all of my interactions with men. The advice he gave me – that I have shared with any woman who has ever sought my counsel for dating advice – can be summed up in six words: ?Never underestimate how visual men are?.
Men like looking at things that are aesthetically pleasing. They are drawn to bright colors and shiny things. They link to see women wearing form fitting clothes and flattering hairstyles. They want to see women smile and exude a high level of sexyness.
All too often chronically single women have an attitude of ?I want to feel comfortable on my first date,? but what is comfortable to you may not be aesthetically pleasing for him. In my single days I would wear what I thought was a good mix of cuteness and comfort. But when I look back in retrospect I realize that I wasn?t displaying an image that would turn heads. A look composed of a long t-shirt, a loose, long cardigan, and in infinity scarf with leggings may feel comfortable and look stylish but doesn?t say ?I?m ready for you to court me,? to your date.
Notice that I have said nothing about one?s facial features or body size. It would be foolish of me to say that doesn?t matter at all. But put it in perspective, you could work out five times a week to get a rockin? bod, but if you aren?t putting together a look that is visibly appealing to a man you are missing the mark.
Once I started applying what I learned from Reggie there was an undeniable positive impact. I started getting 2nd, 3rd, 4th dates. I was constantly approached by men when out in public. Understanding how visual men are made me feel more powerful and in control of my dating situation.
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